Loving Yourself Before Loving Others

TOPICS IN THIS EPISODE

• Why loving yourself needs to come before loving others?
• How  being your best friend can help you in everyday life?

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Transcript

To some of you the concept of becoming your best friend might be completely new, so let’s start by explaining why this is so very important and how it can help you in the long term. 

In a world where we constantly strive to prove ourselves and gain approval from others 

it's very important to be your best friend. Relying on others for the feeling of self-worth  and acceptance can only be effective in the short term.  Sadly most of us don't know much about it.  It's not a social norm to learn that accepting yourself for who you are and finding positive characteristics in yourself will be the absolute key to forming healthy relationships with others. 

It’s safe to say that we almost can't love others unless we love ourselves first. This becomes even more important when trying to introduce changes to your life. As you know we are social animals. We naturally want to be part of a community and by association raise our chances for a better life. We also crave the approval of others. We join groups to feel noticed, acknowledged and heard, which is all fine, however relying on others when trying to transform any aspect of your life is a very bad idea. . 

We women need to learn how to accept ourselves for who we are and stop being so self critical. We need to acknowledge the positive aspects in us and we build on them. 

We need to learn to practise self-care, gratitude and self awareness. You are listening to this for a reason. You want something different, something better, something happy and more fulfilling from your life. You are totally capable of getting there,  but the key thing is that you hold yourself accountable for the changes you make, for the goals you're setting. 

We mums are so busy with daily responsibilities, we often lack time for ourselves.  Yet finding time for yourself is the most important thing you can do!! Start small. Find 5 minutes at the end of the day to be still and gentle with yourself. Do whatever makes you happy, but show yourself love. The love that perhaps not many other people are showing you. Be your best friend. You are in charge of your life. So start practising self acceptance and self love. 

This will  increase your self esteem and give you balance. Accepting yourself for who you are will give you a confidence boost and more positive outlook on life. It will also help you and make new friends and create new chapters in your life. Whatever it is that you desire..

Many of us are in not so happy relationships and marriages. That is the reality. For most of us life didn't quite turn out to be the way we were hoping. But, it's never too late to change it.. 

We women are very resilient, strong, we are in charge of so many things in our families and relationships with others. Yet we often lack connection with ourselves. This year, let’s try to change this. Be in charge of your relationship with yourself, your dreams and life goals. 

Practise self acceptance and develop a supportive inner voice. Slowly become your best friend. 

This will help you in creating the basis of a positive change in your life..

Much of our stress is due to silent conversations we have with ourselves. Psychologists call this self-talk. We talk ourselves into the ground by programming ourselves negatively. 

Some people call this our critical inner voice. Everyone has this critical inner voice but people with low self-esteem have a particularly vicious one.