The Making of a Strong Mum

TOPICS IN THIS EPISODE

• What are the key steps to developing your inner strength?
• Why is self care number one priority for busy mums?

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Transcript

Most of us are aware of how much motherhood can change our lives. 

Apart from all the obvious changes, lack of time , lack of self-care and taking responsibility for our family wellbeing can be very overwhelming. 

Today mums face parenting dilemmas, relationships issues, a long list of kids activities and lots of difficult decisions to take.  The ability to make smart decisions or a lack of it, will quietly create your everyday reality before you realise it. Once that reality is created, there is nobody to blame for it.... That’s the bad news. The good news is that you can always change the way you live your life. 

STEP ONE → AWARENESS

Rising above your current circumstances and taking smart decisions can really make you thrive in life.

Many of us are so busy we don't get a chance to get to know ourselves enough , so ask yourself 

• Are you happy? 
• What aspects of your life are you happy with?
• What aspects would you like to change?
• Are you prepared to work to archive it?

We often talk about what we really want and we wish was different, but not many of us take action.   

What would you give for a happy, fulfilling career ? Or a more balanced lifestyle? 

As nice as this all sounds, let's remember that these things don't come without a price tag. And those who value it, will work for it!

While working hard on creating your happier life don't be shy to ask for help and set priorities!

STEP TWO  → DECISION 

Having worked in corporate firms for many years, I’ve learned that standing out from the crowd and asking inconvenient questions, was rarely welcomed. 

However, it helped me to gain respect and recognition among my peers and managers. 

This comes down to one skill - ability to set boundaries.

This is something that we women are never taught at school and rarely at home.  

As little girls, we are so often told to put the needs of others first..So we get married, have children and look after everyone except ourselves.. Weirdly having expected that looking after others will make us happy. Most of us realise pretty quickly that this attitude is not serving us in the long term and we need to start loving ourselves to be truly happy

When the support around you is limited, self care is even more important. Once you invest in it, it will put you back on track in finding your inner balance, growing your confidence and understanding how you want your life to look like. 

Finding your crowd will make you less lonely and keep you on track towards your life goals.

STEP THREE  →  ACTION 

Neglecting our needs can lead to more serious issues down the line, such as burnout, resentment toward your partner, loneliness or depression. 

We moms need to relearn the art of self-care and self-love. We need to start small from doing what makes us happy, like dancing barefoot or going out with the girls.

Men and women make their decisions differently. They take different factors into consideration. Women are known to have a ‘’softer touch’’ and often find it hard to remove our emotions from the decision making process. 

You could say we ‘’think with our heart’’ and this can be a very powerful tool especially once we learn the art of self- care.

STEP FOUR  →  PERSISTENCE 

We all deserve a lifestyle that will complement our needs in the best way possible. To get there we have to re- train our brains and change our unhelpful beliefs.

We also need to create new healthy habits and form beliefs that support us in reaching our goals. 

Knowing what you want from life is an important step, dedicating enough time to make it happen is another.

It’s usually by learning what makes us unhappy that we discover what we really want in life. And that’s fine – as long as in the end we recognize and articulate our needs.  Brushing them under the carpet and taking no action is not going to change anything. Following a path of self-love and self-care - will.

All mums are superwomen but we need to learn to be more determined when fulfilling our dreams. If we don’t, they will remain just that – our dreams!